A Girl's Anguish!

Should I consider being born as a girl a boon or a bane? This question often popped up in my mind at many situations. Why can’t girls get the freedom which the boys can get? Why can’t girls, even today, stroll on the roads at midnight? Why are girls not allowed to be good friends to guys? Why should girls do the cooking? Why should girls leave their parents after marriage? Why should girls compromise with everything at a future stage of life? (I feel so outrageous that I even want to ask a question – “Why girls alone should get pregnant?” – I really am not expecting any crap answers like “ For scientific reasons” - My question is “Why are even scientific reasons unfavorable to girls?” ).

Anyway, some of the above questions relating to freedom and the like may not really apply to all the girls. But I am talking about those girls whose parents are orthodox even today. Of course, no complaints and offence to parents, it’s the society which causes in them the “fear” for their children. Their “fear” is always scrupulous. But whatever it is, ultimately some of the girls really miss out on few most beautiful things in their life due to confinement. However, I am lucky enough for I feel sad for those who suffer worse conditions than I do. In fact, I feel I am lucky to have parents who are neither too orthodox nor too extrovert. Keeping aside the emotional aspect, freedom was not really the thing which made me write this piece. It’s something else.

I feel ridiculous to listen to statements like “ Inka nee pelli cheseddam, malli mummy ki opika undadu” (Let’s get you married for your mom might not have the required faculty then!). WHAT THE HELL? Why do they emotionally blackmail their daughters to get married? Why do they feel them more as a burden than as a responsibility? Its’ not the kids who need to grow up! But it’s the parents who need to change their mindset. Marriage is not a degree or masters to force one’s child to take it up. It’s her LIFE! Why don’t they realize such small thing? I really hate it more when such parents have a daughter who is industrious and wants to study further with complete perseverance. Why don’t they realize that she wants to achieve something for THEM?! This is one of the two reasons which made me blurt out the anguish.

Most of the boys, let me stress it again, I am referring to MOST not ALL, most of the boys do not understand what girls encounter in a married life. A girl leaves her parents and serves the guy’s parents who did nothing for her at least till that day. Not that I am against a girl serving in- laws, but she would always wish to serve her parents the same way! By the time she reaches the age when she is ready to take up a family’s responsibility, the recipients of such service are different. Why can’t they be her own parents who did so much for her? A girl makes several compromises in her married life. Most of them fail to share what they endure, with their partners for they fail to recognize HER CONTRIBUTIONS towards their FAMILY! I don’t say boys don’t compromise in their married lives but the extent of compromise is much less than that made by girls in MOST cases. That deals with my second reason to write today.

A girl’s life is not easy guys! Respect her for what she undertakes. Support her morally in achieving her dreams. Acknowledge her worth, her importance in your life. Credit her for the responsibilities she take up. For her, the world is a miniscule. Fill her dwarf world with surprises. Make her feel fortunate to live a GIRL’s Life!


P.S.: Nowhere in the above article, there was reference to anyone in particular. Incidents in the lives of people in my surroundings, their views motivated me to write this. And by the way! I am not so depressed :D … I get such depressing thoughts only st particular disparaging situations. I am a HAPPPY GIRL :P